Written By Vaishali – Author of You Are What You Love and Wisdom Rising – www.purplev.com …I had yet another conversation, with yet another friend, who found themselves reeling from an intimate relationship with yet another sociopath predator. Is it just me or has the human landscape, for whatever reason, become more and more littered with people that simply have not developed a conscience?

The story is typical: the sociopath was married yet claimed he was not. The sociopath falsely claimed he had cancer, so he could travel with impunity between the people he strung along. He was charming; he ingratiated himself to the entire family and their circle of friends. If anyone in the family questioned his behavior or came close to connecting the dots on his rampant deceit, the sociopath would become outraged and shift blame onto his intended victim. He spouted poisonous lies every time he opened his mouth. And, of course, it’s a “given” that the sociopath had no remorse for the trail of human destruction he left in his wake and actually enjoyed knowing his activities were twisting a knife that would leave permanent scars.

Not only have I heard this story before, but I also have a couple to tell myself – life experiences I racked up here in the planet Earth classroom. Even without knowing their personal situations, I could recite chapter and verse how these people got caught up in the web that the sociopath weaves so well. I also know the anguish and deep-seated feelings of pain and betrayal that one goes through when the whole house of cards finally collapses and realization that the person who claimed to love you the most is as toxic as a meltdown at a nuclear reactor.

It is not my intention to give a lot of exposure to the sociopaths in our brief time together. There is a lot of great information available these days about their profile and how to spot them. One of the best out there is the Martha Stout, PhD book: The Sociopath Next Door: The Ruthless Versus The Rest Of Us. What I want to do is focus instead on how to go about picking up the pieces after the sociopath bomb has exploded in your life. There are many different “types” of sociopath, but I am going to focus on recovery from the love, or romantic sociopath predator relationship. Here are a few simple but extremely powerful tips I learned the hard way. I feel compelled to share these with you if for no other reason than to equalize the playing field.

Number One: The sociopath predators love tearing your world and especially your self-esteem to shreds. They revel in the knowledge that they are destroying you in ways that can be undetectable. The most crucial thing to bearing mind when taking your life and power back from these insidious, conscienceless forces of destruction is don’t beat yourself up! The sociopath predator has already done a professional job of just that. You are the only person with a conscience and functional moral compass in this equation. You are the sole force of integrity and honesty in this mix. You have suffered enough! You have to stop the madness and not continue to forge a path through self-inflicted brutality. You are probably bludgeoning yourself with questions like: “How could I have not seen this coming?” Answer: You would have if you didn’t have a conscience as well. The rest of us don’t think in such deliberately distorted and diseased ways. Question: “Shouldn’t I have connected the dots earlier and trusted in my inner knowing?” Answer: This experience is how you are learning to do just that.

Do you blame a child for not knowing how to walk straight out of the womb? Of course not. This experience has solidified the ethereal process of trusting in your gut instinct – your feeling/knowing. This is your right of passage in becoming an expert at sensing, knowing and trusting in the red flags as they appear in the field of reality from this time forward. Now you know when something does not feel right or look right in a way that no one is going to be able to talk you out of. The gift, amidst all of this rubble, is that you now have an embodied galvanized self-corrective guidance system you can trust in and rely on.

Your job from here on out is to end the reign of hostility in your life. That includes the self-inflicted variety as well. There is no reason to continue hurting yourself and picking up where the sociopath left off after that predator has been ousted. Sociopaths, by nature, have no conscious. But they know you do, and they are masters at using yours against you. The biggest pitfall left to extricate yourself from is that of shame. There is nothing a sociopath predator loves more than to know you are crumbling under the strain of shame, guilt and self-loathing for violations they committed. In the name of growing beyond that ever-constricting snare, I want to share a great acronym for shame I recently came across at www.lovefraud.com/blog/2012/01/06/letters-to-lovefraud-to-the-liar-named-shame/:Self Hatred Accepting My Enslavement. Shame is a physiological/emotional booby trap the sociopath predator leaves behind. Don’t step in it; do not deploy it. Defuse, dismantle and discard it.

Number Two: You have to make your mind like Teflon when the habit to re-visit and re-live the details of all the lies, cheating and manipulations resurfaces in your memory. Let that ugly energy slide right offof you. Nothing sticks because you are too busy refocusing on your new life -meeting new, wonderful and caring people. You have cleaned up your relationship space. You now have room to invite in and bond with like-minded people of integrity and compassion.

Deny the sociopath predator any further power in your life. Every time you shrink back in fear that you can no longer trust people, you give your power away to the sociopath predator yet again. You have to choose that they no longer get a saying the quality of your life. They no longer get to influence the potential of how free and expansive your experience of life can be. This is the time to take to heart the Satchel Page quote, “Work like you don’t need the money. Dancelike no one is watching. Love like you have never been hurt.” This is how you take back your power, your life and your peace of mind!

Every time you slip back into that noxious quagmire of reflection on the bondage of pain, stop! Instead, focus on what you do want. Focus on the life you came here to live, not the existence you wish to grow beyond. Focus on the loving caring relationships you do have, be it your animal companion, friends, or even your sense of humor. Don’t succumb to the sociopath’s will; the best revenge is living well. You have to take your mind back and make it your best friend and not your second worst enemy. You have made it through the graduate class in learning how to trust in yourself. Now is the time to go out and live the life you just paid a very hefty price for.

Number Three: For those of you who feel that spirituality still has something viable and life sustaining to offer, please consider this: many, many people have died and returned to tell about the experience – commonly know as an NDE (near death experience). The consistent element in these personal accounts is what is referred to as the life review. When a person dies, they see their life in a review. But it is not like watching your life like one would view a movie. In the life review youre live your life from the viewpoint of those around you. And, you not only seeyour life events, you feel them too. For example, if you were a schoolyard bully, in your life review you would now feel what it was like to be on the receiving end of your violence.

What could you ever could do to a sociopath predator that is worse than turning the tables and having them now suffer through the pain and misery they so joyously delivered into your life? They will ultimately get away with nothing. They will be tortured and tormented to the same exacting degree that you were, without escape, without reprieve, without exception. You do not have to do anything but get on with your new life. No need to soil your own hands, just focus on the good and life-sustaining opportunities you have for growth and personal happiness.

Number Four: Remember, this all about you moving forward as a wiser more aware person as a result of graduating from this relationship. Leave the bitterness behind. It will not serve you in creating a life worth living. The only thing that matters now is loving and nurturing yourself through the grief and the shock. The greater the new and improved version of your life is, the happier and more resilient you are. And, the more powerless and meaningless the sociopath predator will become.

Keep focusing on what you do want. When the habit to look back sneaks up on you, keep your eye on the prize: keep putting one emotional foot in front of the other and commit yourself to moving forward. No one will be able to talk you out of your power again. You now recognize the inner alarm of deception whether or not you can actually put your finger on what exactly seems wrong.

The Universe at large will take care of educating the sociopath predator. It is no longer your problem. Just create the best possible life review for yourself that is humanly and Divinely possible. There is a new life that awaits you. Find it, live it, celebrate it, claim it. You deserve it!

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In a special program, George Noory was joined by Linda Moulton Howe to interview four guests, who appeared in individual half-hour segments, about the National Defense Authorization Act (NDAA) of 2012, which contains controversial provisions such as the holding of suspects without due process or habeas corpus. Jonathan Emord, who practices constitutional and administrative law, believes the NDAA is unconstitutional in that it allows the military to incarcerate individuals indefinitely, without charges or a trial. When this kind of thing happens in secrecy, without judicial check, it’s the end of liberty, he commented. Linda noted that the language in the Act doesn’t specify whether US citizens might be held under this kind of military authority with their rights suspended.

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My  friend  Kenar,  just died of cancer.

She often said, “I have cancer, I choose to do nothing. Cancer may kill me, but it will NEVER take away my freedom to be alive.” As I type such words, I can only imagine how many stomachs may churn, because this choice is NOT how we have been taught to exercise our ‘treatment’ options. If you are ready to pounce on me for posting this, or believe Kenar’s decision to be irresponsible, or disturbing, I invite you to read www.mumsnothavingchemo.com “Q&A with Phillip Day.”

To Will? Or to Will Not?
Here is Kenar’s story:

She was only 36. I only met her a little over a year ago. She became one of my closest friends in Los Angeles.  She came to me for what I thought was help except, at the time I failed to understand that it was support, not help that she was seeking… So kept offering her cancer treatment options; I could get her an appointment with Dr. Simone in Boston, or Dr. Burzinski in Texas. When she went to Turkey for closure,  I urged her to try apricot pits,as I remembered a powerful conversation with a speaker at the Health Freedom Expo, about how her usage of them cured her breast cancer. A mutual friend had an infa-red sauna and I sent her the mumsnothavingchemo link about the infa- red sauna cancer treatment.  I told her about Laura Bond and “mum’ and felt  www.mumsnothavingchecmo.com  would help her to know that she had options.  Kenar read the blogs weekly, she was open to organic juice and vitamin C injections but never did anything. At my urging she bought Seth David Chernoff’s cancer book, and Vaishali’s book “You Are What You Love,” and always thanked me for my kindness and friendship…

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By Attorney Jonathan Emord – Author of “The Rise of Tyranny” and “Global Censorship of Health Information“

As the market continues to labor under a tax and regulatory burden that stifles all attempts at growth, the unemployment figures promise to grow from the present 9.1 percent (14 million Americans) to double digits. While the media focuses on the numbers of unemployed, there is another story that will rear its ugly head in the not-so-distant future. The army of unemployed Americans, angry and desperate, will soon begin preying upon those with property and wealth. Crime will rise across the nation as some of those without gainful employment begin to turn to the dark side, stealing and, sometimes, killing to acquire what they want.

The Occupy Wall Street crowd has been relatively peaceful to date. Arrests have occurred but involve a small fraction of those who have been trespassing since September 17, 2011. Many of those assembled are unemployed. Many are angry and desperate. Their anger against Washington and Wall Street is a familiar and generally accepted tune: The Wall Street bail-outs, amounting to about one trillion dollars, have buoyed the financial status of individuals who, and firms that, are largely responsible for the prolific speculative substandard lending that has spawn a domestic and international catastrophe, the worst debt crisis in world history.

As unemployment continues to creep upwards and as the number of long-term unemployed (those jobless for 27 weeks or more) exceeds 6.2 million, another crisis will befall America. We will watch as crime rates rise across the nation. Violent crime and theft will increase as those who are either compromised in their ethics or in their mental state will move from despondency over job loss to anger directed at those with property and wealth. That fraction of the unemployed will increasingly covet the property and wealth of the employed and will, sooner or later, strike out if they cannot regain employment. Some will steal and, in the process, some will commit acts of violence to make theft happen or to eliminate witnesses to theft.

We are about to witness an uptick in crime that could be very significant. The unemployed who turn to these measures are different from the unemployed of prior years. The unemployed in the central cities will now be joined by an enormous new army of unemployed coming from the suburbs, indeed from across the nation. While many have fallen off the lowest rung of the economic ladder, many others have experienced a profound drop in fortune from positions in the middle class and upper class to destitution. The demographic and economic differences of this new army of unemployed invite crime that will spread from urban areas to suburban areas and will move from the streets to homes. Enclaves historically known for their tranquility will be engulfed in periodic crime sprees that will terrorize areas and confirm just how dire long-term unemployment can be for the entire nation.

We can see the beginnings of an uptick in crime and of movement of crime from urban to suburban areas, particularly in parts of the country hit hardest by unemployment and the mortgage crisis. In states where unemployment is highest and the mortgage crisis is likewise the worst, we are just beginning to see evidence of greater violent crime and theft. As unemployment worsens, we are likely to see this burgeoning evidence form an unmistakable upward trend.

With crime increasing and state and local funding for law enforcement stretched to the limit, resulting in reductions in force nationwide, Americans will have to rely to an even greater extent on self-defense to protect themselves and their property. Never fully satisfactory, reliance on police to protect victims of crime will become even more problematic, necessitating greater gun ownership as well as reliance on home security systems and safe rooms.

The Obama Administration contemplates more make work jobs dependent upon a continuous flow of federal dollars. That approach will make little difference either to unemployment rates or to crime related to unemployment. A change in the dynamic will only come about with sustainable employment, the kind that the private sector provides when financially able. Consequently, even if some of the millions unemployed come to find work in temporary government jobs, the underlying problem of a sick economy remains and will be adding far more individuals to the ranks of the unemployed than will be offset by the make work jobs.

The crisis unfolding demands action to liberate the private sector from the tangle of regulation and taxation that robs it of the resources needed to overcome the recession and lead the nation into recovery. Only when that happens will unemployment creeping ever higher be halted and ultimately reversed. Only then will crime related to unemployment diminish. In the interim, however, those with property and wealth must, of necessity, be on their guard.

© 2011 Jonathan W. Emord

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Jonathan W. Emord is an attorney who practices constitutional and administrative law before the federal courts and agencies. Congressman Ron Paul calls Jonathan “a hero of the health freedom revolution” and says “all freedom-loving Americans are in [his] debt . . . for his courtroom [victories] on behalf of health freedom.” He has defeated the FDA in federal court a remarkable eight times, six on First Amendment grounds, and is the author of Amazon bestsellers The Rise of Tyranny, and Global Censorship of Health Information. He is also the American Justice columnist for U.S.A. Today Magazine. For more info visit Emord.com.

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People often ask me, “What is the best whole food supplement available?” I take two products: Greens & Grains and SomaPower. These are outstanding, high quality, completely organic products. They are packed with concentrated Chi. If you would like more information or to order, go to www.So-Vim.com/PurpleV. Here is a short audio piece where I talk more about why I am such a big fan of the these organic food products.

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Could you forgive the man that murdered your daughter?

By all definitions Aba Gayle is a victim, for she is the mother of a beautiful young daughter who was brutally murdered.  But Aba Gayle learned that there is another way to live and that she had a choice.  She chose to stop being a victim and embrace forgiveness, the embodiment of You Are What You Love

Tune in (above) and hear this compelling interview as Aba Gayle shares her journey and story with Vaishali.

On August 28^th at noon PST/3pm EST live at www.purplev.com Aba Gayle will join Vaishali again. We invite you to call in with your questions around forgiveness. What do you struggle most with? What do you know requires forgiveness that you can’t get over? What gifts does forgiveness offer?

Call in number is:  949-272-9508

Vaishali is the author of Wisdom Rising and You Are What You Love. She is a columnist for the Huffington Post and an international health & wellness speaker who has appeared on The Dr. Oz Radio Show and Oprah.com. Vaishali learned to transform her life through Chi Nei Tsang and ayurveda, from the threat of two terminal disease diagnoses, domestic abuse and financial devastation. Completely recovered, she shares her wisdom @ www.purplev.com/mediakit or email press@purplev.com

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We are at a time in our Republic that demands a renewal of principles or else the Great Experiment will fail. The Founding Fathers referred to the inception and development of our country as the Great Experiment as it was the first time in the history of the world that people willfully deliberated about which form of government would best protect their individual liberty.  The premise of the experiment was that both the government and capitalism are to serve the citizen in his or her quest for liberty.  The citizen’s do not serve the government or capitalism. The point to remember is that the government and capitalism are “means” only, not the “end” of our country. If the relationship of the citizens to the government or business becomes inverted making the citizens secondary to the government or business we have effectively transformed the purpose of our country. (more…)

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